I’ve intentionally stayed away from the national news, Sunday morning talk shows, and quite a bit of social media today. However, while I was away, it’s come out that the shooter’s mother was a gun collector, and she is now being made out to be a bad person for collecting the guns.
The way I look at it is this: The mother being a gun collector, and the kids knowing how to use them are not an issues in itself. Hell, I’ve shot a gun at a target. The likely issue is this kid probably had mental health issues and wasn’t getting help for them because, well, our healthcare system sucks. It’s easier to buy a gun than it is to see a Psychologist in the US. Look at the stats. The majority of similar incidents were done by persons with untreated mental health issues.
The vilifying of the mother is the wrong thing to be doing. We should instead be asking: if this kid had problems, why was he not able to see the specialists needed, AND HOW DO WE FIX THAT? A lot of people will frame this as just a debate on gun control. While that is an important discussion to have, I think part of that needs to focus on the two questions I just asked.
Already, there is one mother who is working on opening this part of the discussion. She penned a very heartbreaking and thought provoking piece called “I am Adam Lanza’s Mother” in which she talks about the issues that she has with her own 13-year-old son, and how she was basically told that the only way to get him help is to have him charged with a crime so that he is sent to jail.
I highly suggest you take a few minutes and read what she wrote.